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If you’re pregnant and nearing the finish line, congratulations! You’ve probably got a nursery coming together, a car seat box waiting to be opened, and a to-do list a mile long. But one of the most practical (and oddly emotional) things you'll do to prep for baby’s arrival? Packing your hospital bag. I started building my hospital bag checklist around month two (what can I say—I’m a planner) and spent the next several months thoughtfully refining it. I researched birthing methods, meditations, and medicines, trying to prepare for every possibility. In the end, I didn’t use half the things I packed, and a few items I was sure would be game-changers turned out to be totally impractical. So in the checklist I’ve created for you here, I’ve narrowed it down to what you actually  need—plus a few thoughtful extras that, in my opinion, are genuinely worth the space. When it came time to actually pack, I knew I wanted everything to be easy to find—especially for my husband, who’d be the one digging through the bags while I focused on, well… labor. I ordered a set of clear storage pouches from Amazon and labeled each one by category (think: toiletries, nursing, baby clothes, snacks) so he wouldn’t be left guessing. Around 30 weeks, I organized and labeled everything, and by 34 weeks we had our hospital bags (we used small suitcases) packed and loaded in the trunk. His bag stayed in the closet until labor started, but it was packed and ready to go. This system gave both of us peace of mind—we weren’t scrambling, and he could grab whatever I needed in seconds without turning the whole bag upside down. So if you’re in the nesting phase or just want to check one more thing  off your list, I’ve got you covered. Below is the hospital bag checklist I wish I had the first time around—what I actually used, what I’m glad I brought, and the few nice-to-haves that are actually  worth it. The Hospital Bag Checklist Every Pregnant Woman Needs For Mom Essentials ID, insurance card, hospital forms Birth plan (if you have one) Phone + charger (extra-long cord or portable charger) Wallet with cash and/or card Clothing Comfy robe Nursing bras or nursing tanks Mesh underwear (hospital provides mesh ones, but extras are nice) Button-down nightgown or pajama dress (preferably 100% cotton or linen) 2–3 pairs of pajamas or labor & delivery gowns (especially helpful if your hospital stay ends up being longer) Shower shoes or 2 pairs of house shoes/slippers (one may get bloody during delivery — plan to toss; fresh pair for afterward) Cozy socks with grip Going home outfit (loose, comfy, and weather-appropriate) Toiletries Toothbrush + toothpaste Face wash or wipes Lip balm (a must!) Hair ties or headband Hairbrush or comb Deodorant Travel-size shampoo, conditioner, and body wash Nipple balm/butter Peri bottle (hospital provides one, but the upside down one is well worth the extra purchase) Adult diapers or heavy postpartum pads (hospital provides some) Witch hazel (pads or liquid — hospital may provide but nice to have your own) DermaPlast spray (hospital often provides but helpful to pack just in case) Glasses/contacts & solution (if needed) Health & Wellness Prenatal or postnatal vitamins Electrolyte drinks or packets Medications Comfort Items Your own pillow with a non-white pillowcase Blanket ( Linen or Cotton ) or shawl Essential oils, roller blends, or mini diffuser Massage tools or tennis ball for back labor Yoga mat (for stretching, squatting, or comfort during contractions) Bluetooth speaker (to play music or calming sounds) Music playlist + headphones SNACKS + DRINKS — lots! (think trail mix, granola bars, dried fruit, coconut water, electrolyte drinks , etc.) Water bottle with straw lid For Baby 2–3 newborn outfits (include one with built-in hand mitts or separate mittens) Going home outfit Hat and socks Blanket or swaddle Pacifiers (hospital often provides one — and it might be baby’s favorite — but it’s helpful to have backups) Newborn diapers (hospital provides plenty, but extras are okay) Wipes (gentle/sensitive, though hospital provides) Car seat (already installed!) For Partner or Support Person Change of clothes Toiletries + any daily medications Pillow + blanket Phone + charger w/ extra long charging cable SNACKS + DRINKS — bring a solid stash! Energy drinks + electrolyte drinks — helpful for long labor stretches Water bottle Nice to Haves Folder or large envelope for hospital papers & baby’s documents Breastfeeding pillow (like a Boppy or My Brest Friend ) Thank-you cards or small gifts for nurses Notepad + pen for questions, instructions, or journaling 1–2 dimmable night lights — crucial for overnight baby care without waking your partner; hospital lights are harsh and jarring; Pro Tip: Using the red light option while your partner sleeps works wonders to not disturb them Birth plaques for writing baby's name and birth stats (adorable for first photos!) Baby-safe ink pad for capturing newborn footprints Sharpie (to fill out birth plaques or add birth details to keepsakes) Silk or Satin Pillowcase Makeup Hair Styling Tools Downloadable Checklist:

Breastfeeding has been one of the most intimate and transformative parts of my motherhood journey. From the moment my daughter was born, it felt surreal to offer my body to feed her—but minutes afterward, skin-to-skin, she instinctively crawled up my chest and latched on. I don’t even know if she got anything, but she latched—and yes, it hurt a bit but there was something powerful in that moment that will stick with me forever. The newborn phase tested me physically and mentally. I tackled every overnight shift to give my body the best chance at producing enough milk. In the first 2 weeks I got almost no sleep. I didn't count all of the hours but I do remember getting into a fight with my husband and screaming "I've had 4 hours of sleep in the past 4 days! Give it to me!" It definitely wasn't my finest moment. But the oxytocin rush during nursing felt like helped me keep going. Sleep-deprived though I was, those every hour and a half feeds forged a bond so deep—I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Also, be warned, whoever said newborns feed every 2-3 hours LIED . It's more like every hour and a half; and I don't mean you get an hour and a half break between feedings. There's an hour and a half between the beginning of one feeding and the start of the next. You may get 30 minutes of uninterrupted time between nursing sessions but it's definitely not sufficient for sleep. During the first few months of my breastfeeding journey, I leaned heavily on supplements like Legendairy’s Pump Princess and Milkmakers cookies. In month one, the effect was dramatic—an hour after taking them, instant engorgement and often a soaked through shirt and sheets if I didn't nurse her quick enough. By months two and three, my body had found its flow; the supplements still offered a boost but without the mess. Pumping, however, remained mechanical and impersonal. Even with a wearable pump, I felt like a cow attached to machinery, and at work—being the only mother pumping in a very male-dominated office—it felt wrong, awkward, and isolating. Despite all the work I did to keep a healthy milk supply, when I returned to work it seemed to be all for naught. My supply plummeted. I wasn't eating or drinking enough, and with Lily spending most of the day with the nanny those oxytocin producing nursing sessions were replaced with disconnected bottle feeds. My milk was drying up and I scrambled, desperate to bring it back. I ended up leaving my job, started nourishing myself properly, drank lots of water, and prioritized nursing again. My supply rebounded. It taught me brutally that feeding your baby starts with feeding yourself. There are moments of pure beauty amidst the chaos. My daughter is now 15 months old and I’ll never forget the time she was scared and she ran straight to nurse for comfort. As soon as she latched, she calmed. That feeling—beholding her in that moment, sensing that I grew her and nourished not just her body, but her mind and spirit, and that I was her most complete place of safety—brought me to happy tears. What I Wish I’d Known: Honest Tips for Other Moms Breastfeeding hurts at first —but you get used to it quickly, and honestly, it’s not as bad as people warn. Teething doesn’t ruin it.  Babies bite, sure, but they learn—most do fine. Miss a feed?  You can wake up drenched. Stock up on nursing pads. Don’t chase Instagram-style freezers  full of breastmilk bricks—it’s not necessary. My daughter now rejects re-heated expressed milk. Frozen milk flavor changes , because enzymes can alter the taste when thawed. It’s normal, but good to know. One thing I never expected was how breastfeeding affected my brain. The surge in progesterone and the steep hormonal shifts postpartum intensified my “pregnancy brain”—that fuzzy, forgetful fog. Science supports this: rising and falling progesterone and estrogen during the perinatal period are linked to cognitive blips (like slower recall or focus) . And while brain scans show physical re-wiring—like gray matter shifts that may enhance maternal instincts—our brains are indeed working overtime adapting to new roles. The Power of a Virtual Class One of the most practical things I did was enroll in Aeroflow's virtual breastfeeding class, covered by my insurance. It armed me with strategies for latch technique, pumping, and troubleshooting. The handouts were lifesavers—easy reminders when everything felt overwhelming. I’m sharing those same handouts here—downloadable and just as helpful as they were to me. Emotional Shifts: The Mental Ride of Breastfeeding I fully empathize now with “crying over spilled milk.” When you’re running on no sleep, and precious pumped milk spills, it feels catastrophic. Your body poured energy into making that milk, and dropping it is heartbreak. Hormones don’t help; the shifts in oxytocin, prolactin, estrogen, and progesterone during those months can leave you feeling fragile emotionally. Between hormone shifts—like continued progesterone exposure while nursing—and relentless fatigue, my mental state had more ups and downs than I could've imagined. Progesterone acts as a neurosteroid, impacting GABA receptors and promoting sedation and emotional vulnerability. That meant some days I felt extra tired, anxious, or moody. But knowing it was biology—not weakness—helped me be compassionate with myself. Slow Weaning, Gentle Goodbyes I breastfed on demand for the first year, then began easing into weaning around 12 months. Slow was key—I offered alternatives but never pushed if she wanted to nurse. Official weaning began around 14 months, and we're now down to two nursing sessions a day. Our plan? Gentle weaning through 18 months, but with zero pressure. She leads, I follow. Why I Still Recommend Breastfeeding It’s the ultimate comfort tool.  Hurt, tired, or emotional? Breastfeeding fixes it. Fed is best.  I believe fiercely that no mother should feel guilty—whether feeding breast or bottle. Breast is easier than bottle.  No prepping, no cleaning—just togetherness and nourishment. Strong Takeaways for Other Moms Feed yourself to feed them.  Eat, hydrate, rest—your body needs fuel to fuel them. Supplements are great—but temporary.  Use them early to stabilize supply, not later to chase peaks. Pumping is a tool, not your identity.  It’s okay to dislike it. It doesn’t define your journey. Hormones can hijack your emotions, and your brain—cut yourself some slack. Wean on your terms, on her terms.  Slow and steady with no guilt. Normalize public nursing.  You’re not just feeding—you're nurturing.

Breastfeeding is one of the most personal decisions a mother can make—and also one of the most rewarding, challenging, and nuanced. As a mom who chose to both breastfeed and pump, I’ve experienced both the beauty and the complexity firsthand. While I nursed on demand for the first few months, I also relied heavily on pumping to build up a stash for when I needed breaks or wanted to include my partner in feedings. That said, my daughter had other plans—and by five months old, she completely refused pumped milk! Whether you're planning to breastfeed, pump, combo-feed, or formula-feed—remember this: a fed baby is best . You are not defined by how you choose to feed your baby. There is no shame in choosing what works best for your family, your mental health, and your lifestyle. For moms choosing or considering breastfeeding or pumping, there are incredible free resources available nationwide  that can make the journey smoother, more informed, and more supported. Below is a list of trusted programs, support systems, and tools you can tap into—no matter where you live. Free Breastfeeding Resources Nationwide 1. WIC (Women, Infants & Children Program) WIC provides: Certified peer counselors Lactation consultants Breast pumps (manual and electric) Breastfeeding classes Special food packages for breastfeeding moms and babies Learn more: wicbreastfeeding.fns.usda.gov 2. La Leche League International (LLLI) Peer-to-peer support from experienced breastfeeding moms. They host local and virtual meetups, offer phone/email support, and provide evidence-based guidance. Find a group: llli.org 3. Baby Café USA Weekly free drop-in breastfeeding support groups led by lactation consultants and peer counselors. Find a location: babycafeusa.org 4. Office on Women’s Health (womenshealth.gov) Offers digital breastfeeding guides, workplace rights information, pumping tips, and troubleshooting advice. Explore: womenshealth.gov/breastfeeding 5. AWHONN Resources Free e-guides and resources for breastfeeding through the Association of Women’s Health, Obstetric and Neonatal Nurses. More info: awhonn.org 6. Healthy Start & MIECHV Programs These federally funded programs often include home visits from lactation consultants and provide equipment and support throughout pregnancy and postpartum. Search by state: mchb.hrsa.gov How to Access & Next Steps Resource How to Access WIC Apply through your local health department or WIC website La Leche League Use llli.org  to find your local chapter or virtual group Baby Café USA Visit babycafeusa.org  to locate a site near you Women’s Health Guides Download for free from womenshealth.gov AWHONN Search and download resources from awhonn.org Healthy Start/MIECHV Contact your local maternal health programs or search by ZIP code Breastfeeding and pumping are deeply personal—and sometimes unpredictable—experiences. Whatever choice you make, just know you're not alone and there is help out there.

As a DC mom, I was so relieved to discover how many local resources were available to support my breastfeeding journey. From lactation clinics to peer groups and free consultations, I never felt alone. I breastfed and pumped for the first several months, and even though my daughter quit pumped milk at 5 months old (babies have minds of their own!), I’m still so grateful I had access to support that made the experience more manageable. If you're based in DC and considering breastfeeding or pumping, the good news is—you have access to some of the best free support in the country. Here's a full breakdown of where to go, who to contact, and what you'll get. Free Breastfeeding Resources in Washington, DC 1. DC Health Breastfeeding Program Lactation-friendly workplace policies Rights education under DC Human Rights Act Toolkits for new moms More info: dchealth.dc.gov 2. DC WIC Provides the standard WIC benefits, including lactation counseling, breastfeeding supplies, and peer support. Learn more: dcwic.org 3. Mamatoto Village “Milk Bar” Weekly free in-person and virtual lactation support groups One-on-one consultations with lactation counselors Support for Black maternal health More info: mamatotovillage.org 4. Breastfeeding Center for Greater Washington Free and low-cost lactation classes Pump rentals and insurance processing help Donor milk services Explore: breastfeedingcenter.org 5. Children’s National Hospital Lactation Services Free prenatal and postpartum classes "Mom's Got Milk" support groups Back-to-work consults Details: childrensnational.org 6. NIH Nursing Mothers Program If you work at or near NIH: Prenatal education Pumping rooms Lactation consultations Info: ors.od.nih.gov 7. DC Breastfeeding Coalition & Lactation Commission Promotes public health policies and holds events like Black Breastfeeding Week. Updates: dchealth.dc.gov How to Access & Next Steps Resource How to Access DC WIC Apply at dcwic.org  or call your local clinic Mamatoto Village Register for support groups or consults at mamatotovillage.org Breastfeeding Center Call 202-293-5182 or walk in during open hours Children’s National Call 202-476-6941 or attend a community session NIH Program Apply via ors.od.nih.gov  if employed there DC Health Download toolkits or get guidance via dchealth.dc.gov Whether you’re starting your journey, troubleshooting a latch issue, or transitioning back to work, DC has your back . And I’ll say it again because it’s worth repeating: a fed baby is best . Your love isn’t measured in ounces. Choose what works best for you, and don’t hesitate to ask for help—you deserve it.

I was recently accepted into the BabyArk affiliate program and I couldn't be more excited! Ever since I was pregnant, I’ve had my eye on the BabyArk Car Seat ...  like a hawk. I obsess over the best baby gear because I want the absolute best for my baby, and your baby deserves the best too! When I find a great product, like the really rave worthy ones, I want everyone to know. Insert... the BabyArk. You know how some people stalk their celebrity crush’s every move? That’s me with this car seat. I’ve read the reviews, watched every video, and followed every launch update so you don't have to! Now that we’re finally ready to move to a convertible car seat, I’m beyond excited to make BabyArk a part of our everyday life. So, let me tell you what makes the BabyArk stand out in a sea of safety seats. Why I’m Already Obsessed Safety first : The seat uses SafeCoil™ & BioArk™ energy‑absorption tech  built with military‑grade carbon fiber + steel , reducing crash forces and side‑impact energy. Smart features  (Smart model): 14 sensors, LED indicators, app alerts for installation, buckling, and “forgotten child” situations—total peace of mind. Premium convenience : Magnetic harness straps, zip‑on/off machine‑washable covers, no‑rethread harness, and an adjustable JoltFree™ headrest with 11 positions. Secure installation : Both models feature rigid LATCH , seat belts , top tether , load‑leg , and anti‑rebound bar —rare combination for maximum stability. Pricing & Availability Smart Convertible Car Seat  starts at $990  (available in select colors via the Babyark website and partners like Kidsland USA)  Classic Convertible Car Seat  is priced at $790 , also available directly or through retailers like Strolleria and Destination Baby & Kids  Financing options are available—starting at around $62/month for the Smart model or $50/month for the Classic—via Affirm or Paysquad  Delivery typically ships in 5–7 days, and many online retailers offer free delivery, trial, and warranty   Technical Specs at a Glance Feature Smart Model Classic/Premium Model Rear-facing weight 4–50 lb (1.8–22.7 kg) 4–55 lb (1.8–25 kg) Forward-facing weight 26.5–65 lb (12–29.5 kg) Same Height limit Up to 49 in / 124 cm Same Seat weight 27 lb (12.5 kg) 27 lb Base weight 18 lb (8.2 kg) 17.7–20 lb depending on retailer Dimensions (RF) 30 × 17 × 27 in (75 × 44 × 70 cm) Same Recline & Positions 9 recline positions, 11 headrest spots Similar but app‑guided in Smart variant Material & Fabric FR‑free, PFOA/PFOs/PFCs/PFAS‑free Same, machine-washable Expiration None (lifetime) None Now that all the details are in place, I’m officially ready to pull the trigger on the Babyark . I can't wait to unbox it, test the app features, evaluate ease of installation, assess day-to-day comfort, and capture it all in a full review for you guys. I’ve never been more excited about a car seat in my life—#momlife indeed. Stay tuned for the grand reveal! Click here for my affiliate link to shop BabyArk!

When I was pregnant, I wasn’t just growing one tiny human—I was also growing two fibroids. Yep, surprise! Alongside the little kicks and growing belly came two unwelcome guests that made themselves very much at home on the outside of my uterus. The larger of the two was about 3 cm—roughly the size of a golf ball—and for a while, we actually thought it was the baby’s foot or elbow. It would poke out at times, and we’d marvel at what we thought was our baby stretching. Turns out… not quite. Luckily for me, my fibroids didn’t cause any pain and posed no risk to my baby because of their position (outside the uterus). But that’s not the case for everyone. One of my friends also developed fibroids during her pregnancy, and she was in so  much pain she could barely walk. It was scary, unpredictable, and took weeks to ease up. So let’s talk about what fibroids actually are, what to expect if you have them during pregnancy, and why they’re especially common for women of color and those of us who are having babies a little later in life. What Are  Fibroids, Anyway? Uterine fibroids  (also known as leiomyomas  or myomas ) are noncancerous growths made up of muscle and fibrous tissue that grow in and around the uterus. They can vary dramatically in size—from as small as a seed to as large as a grapefruit—and you can have just one or many at a time. Types of fibroids include: Intramural:  grow within the uterine wall Subserosal:  grow on the outside of the uterus (like mine!) Submucosal:  grow into the uterine cavity Pedunculated:  grow on a stalk, like a mushroom More detail on types and symptoms from Cleveland Clinic. Why Do Fibroids Grow During Pregnancy? In short: hormones . Pregnancy causes a surge in estrogen  and progesterone , both of which stimulate the uterine lining—and unfortunately, fibroids love those hormones too. According to the NIH , these hormones can cause fibroids to grow rapidly, especially in the first and second trimesters. That’s exactly what happened to me. What started as small, barely noticeable bumps turned into firm, round protrusions you could see and feel on my belly. How Common Are Fibroids? Fibroids are extremely common  in women of reproductive age. According to the Office on Women’s Health (U.S. Department of Health & Human Services): 70–80%  of women will develop fibroids by age 50. Black women are 2 to 3 times more likely  to develop fibroids than white women, often earlier and with more severe symptoms. Advanced maternal age  (typically age 35 and older) is another risk factor, per ACOG. So if you’re a Black woman in your 30s or 40s and pregnant or trying to conceive, it’s worth being proactive with your doctor. Risks and Symptoms of Fibroids During Pregnancy While many women with fibroids have normal pregnancies (hi, that was me!), fibroids can  come with some risks and complications. During Pregnancy: According to ACOG, potential complications include: Pain  (especially if the fibroid grows rapidly or degenerates) Increased risk of miscarriage Placental abruption Preterm labor Breech presentation Fetal growth restriction  (rare) Outside of Pregnancy: Heavy or prolonged periods Pelvic pain or pressure Constipation Frequent urination Back or leg pain Difficulty conceiving (in some cases) What Happens After Birth? Some fibroids shrink naturally postpartum as hormone levels fall, while others stick around. The Cleveland Clinic notes that fibroid size and symptoms may lessen after pregnancy, but they rarely disappear entirely without treatment. In my case they shrank; but my OB-GYN will continue to monitor them during annual visits, and as long as they remain asymptomatic, no intervention is needed. Can Fibroids Be Removed? Yes—though not during pregnancy , unless there’s a life-threatening complication. Here are common removal options, as explained by the Mayo Clinic : Myomectomy  – Surgery to remove fibroids while preserving the uterus (common for women who want to conceive in the future). Hysterectomy  – Complete removal of the uterus (a permanent solution). Uterine artery embolization  – Blocks blood flow to fibroids to shrink them. MRI-guided focused ultrasound  – Non-invasive destruction of fibroid tissue. Living with Fibroids If you’ve been diagnosed with fibroids, or suspect you might have them, the first thing to know is this: you are not alone.  And you are not broken. Millions of women—especially Black women—live full, beautiful lives while managing fibroids. Tips for navigating fibroids: Keep track of your symptoms Advocate for yourself in medical settings Ask your OB-GYN for extra monitoring during pregnancy Lean on community—friends, forums, or support groups Final Thoughts Growing a baby is hard enough without fibroids tagging along for the ride. But here’s the thing: your body is wise. Whether you’re managing fibroids, pregnancy, or both, you’re doing something amazing—and you deserve support, knowledge, and care. I was lucky that mine were harmless. But even if you’re not so lucky, you can  still have a healthy pregnancy and a beautiful birth. The key is awareness, preparation, and not being afraid to speak up if something doesn’t feel right. Got questions about fibroids or your own experience? Talk to your OBGYN and bring a list of all the questions you can possibly think of to give yourself the best chance at leaving your visit with a peace. You're also welcome to leave a comment here. I'm super passionate about creating a safe space with this blog so let’s normalize talking about this and remove any shame or stigma around tough conversations. We all go through a lot bringing life into this world, and we deserve support along the way.

Let me tell you something wild. During my pregnancy, I lived  for lemonade. Not just any lemonade—ice cold, lip-puckering, borderline-too-tart but still scrumptiously sweet, lemonade. Raspberry-lemonade, strawberry lemonade, blueberry lemonade, it didn't matter. The more the better. As long as the lemon was in there and it was FRESH squeezed, I'd take one... or sometimes three. I craved it so much, I started joking that my baby would come out smelling like citrus and demanding Chick-fil-A’s lemonade straight from the bottle. Fast forward to now: I’m not pregnant anymore, but my friend just entered her third trimester, and guess what she told me the other day? “I can’t stop drinking lemonade. What is happening?!” Girl. Welcome to the club! So… Why Lemonade? Pregnancy cravings are real—and weird. Some of us want pickles and ice cream. Some want crunchy ice, clay, or even soap (yes, that’s a thing— hi pica ). And some of us? We want lemonade like it’s the nectar of life. Here’s what might  be going on: 1. Your body’s asking for hydration + electrolytes. Lemonade is water-based and contains some natural electrolytes from the lemon juice (especially if it’s fresh). During pregnancy, blood volume increases significantly, which means staying hydrated is crucial. Your body might be saying, “Hey! I need more fluids and a zesty kick to go with it.” 2. Nausea relief. Lemons are known to ease morning sickness. That sour, citrusy punch can settle an uneasy stomach—especially during the first trimester. So if lemonade was the only thing that didn’t make you gag, you’re not alone. 3. Vitamin C boost. Pregnant bodies need more vitamin C to help absorb iron and support fetal development. While lemonade isn’t a miracle supplement, that lemon juice might be your body’s subtle way of getting what it needs. 4. Your taste buds are on a wild ride. Pregnancy can completely  change your sense of taste and smell. Things you used to love might smell like trash, and things you never noticed suddenly become obsessions. Sour and tart flavors—like those in lemonade—often become strangely satisfying during this hormonal rollercoaster. The “Lemonade Effect”: A Sisterhood of Citrus The best part? I thought my lemonade obsession was a one-time fluke. But now, watching my friend go through the same thing, I realize: maybe lemonade is our pregnancy love language. There’s something deeply comforting (and slightly hilarious) about seeing the same cravings show up in our circle of moms. It’s like a citrus-scented rite of passage. So Mama, Listen to Your Body. Whether you’re craving lemonade, watermelon, olives, or peanut butter straight from the jar—trust your body. Pregnancy cravings aren’t random nonsense. Your body is whispering  to you (or screaming, let’s be real) about what it wants. Sometimes it’s nutrients. Sometimes it’s comfort. Sometimes it’s just something that tastes really freaking good  in that moment. As long as your cravings are safe, go for it.  You're doing an incredible, magical, exhausting, mind-blowing thing—growing life. That deserves a cold glass of lemonade. Or seven.

When I found out I was pregnant, I immediately stopped doing a lot of things—eating sushi, taking long hot baths, sipping wine, taking my Adderall... At the same time, I also cut out caffeine. I had read that it could constrict blood vessels and possibly limit blood flow to the baby, and I didn’t want to take any chances. I was trying to do everything “right.” What followed, however, was something I did not  expect: debilitating, day-long migraines  that left me bedridden, light-sensitive, and completely drained. This lasted my entire first trimester. I made multiple tearful trips to my OB’s office, desperate for relief. Eventually, she sat me down and explained something that made everything click: what I was experiencing were likely pregnancy-induced migraines , triggered by hormonal changes and blood vessel expansion . Here's the science behind it: Adderall , as a stimulant, causes blood vessel constriction (vasoconstriction) . When I stopped taking it, my blood vessels—which had been regularly narrowed—suddenly dilated . Pregnancy itself also causes vasodilation , due to hormonal shifts and increased blood volume. So when I eliminated both Adderall and caffeine (which is also a mild vasoconstrictor), my body experienced a double dose  of blood vessel expansion—which likely contributed to the intense migraines. My OB recommended something surprising: try a small amount of caffeine . She explained that up to 200mg of caffeine per day is considered safe during pregnancy, and that it might help by gently constricting my blood vessels and reducing the headache pressure. I gave it a try. And it changed everything. Within a few days, the migraines were no longer debilitating. Some days they disappeared entirely. I could open my eyes. I could move. I could care for myself again and I felt a little bit more like the me I knew and loved. The caffeine didn’t just help with headaches—it also gave me a small boost in mental clarity and focus , something I really needed after losing the structure and energy that Adderall sometimes provides. I continued to drink between 100 and 200mg of caffeine a day—usually in the form of a cup of coffee or a strong black or green tea—and it truly made a world  of difference. By week 14, most of my first trimester symptoms had faded. The nausea had eased, the fatigue had lifted, and my migraines were under control. I continued drinking my morning coffee throughout my second trimester—not just to avoid headaches, but because it helped me stay clear, calm, and productive. And the result? I had a healthy pregnancy . And my baby is thriving. I’m not sharing this to tell anyone else what they should  do—but to offer another side of the story. One where moderation, medical advice, and listening to your body can all work together. If you’re struggling with migraines or brain fog during early pregnancy, talk to your doctor.  Advocate for yourself. Ask the hard questions. Because sometimes the solution might be as simple as a warm cup of coffee. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) : " Moderate caffeine consumption (less than 200 mg per day)  does not appear to be a major contributing factor in miscarriage or preterm birth."  — ACOG Committee Opinion No. 462 You can read their guidance here: 🔗 ACOG on Moderate Caffeine Intake During Pregnancy

Yes! It's possible! Instead of spending hours upon hours researching and adding products to your baby registry you can just copy mine and have a HUGE head start! Everything on my public registry has been personally vetted and I either LOVE the product, or a close friend of mine does and I've heard about it so much it has earned a spot here. After you've transferred or copied the registry you can add or delete items as you see fit. I lean towards organic products, natural materials, and biggest bang for your buck. I love premium products, however I'm always down to save a few coins if I've found a product of similar quality with worthwhile cost savings.  ​ You can find my public Babylist Baby Registry here .  ​​ How to Copy My Babylist Registry: Access your Babylist registry: Go to your registry page on Babylist.  Transfer or Link: Look for an option to "Transfer Registry" or "+Add Item".  Choose Babylist: Select "Babylist" from the store dropdown menu.  Copy and Paste: If transferring, copy and paste the Babylist registry link you want to copy.  Transfer or Add Link: Click "Transfer Items" or "Add Link" to proceed.  ​ Unfortunately Amazon Baby Registries are not directly transferrable (able to be copied) but you can use any of the affiliate links I've provided anywhere on this site to add an item to your Amazon registry.   I will update this registry periodically with new products and the new preferences to keep it as current as possible. Congratulations mama!

What Every New Mom Needs to Know for Those Tender First Weeks Bringing a baby into the world is nothing short of miraculous—but let’s be honest: your body goes through a LOT. Whether you had a vaginal birth or a C-section, those first few hours, days, and weeks postpartum require gentle care, a lot of rest, and more support than we often talk about. I created this blog post to walk you through what your body truly needs right after giving birth—and how to give yourself the care and grace you deserve. 1. Rest Is Not Optional—It’s Essential You just ran a marathon and  had major surgery at the same time (yes, even with a vaginal birth). Your uterus is contracting, your hormones are shifting, and your body is healing in real time. Try to rest as much as possible in those first few days. That might look like: Lying down flat whenever baby sleeps Saying “yes” to help from family and friends Keeping your calendar clear of unnecessary visitors It’s tempting to try to do “all the things,” but remember: healing is  the thing. 2. Vaginal Healing: Padsicles, Peri Bottles, and Patience If you had a vaginal birth, you’re likely dealing with soreness, swelling, and maybe even stitches. Here’s what can help: Instant Ice Maxi Pads : Think of this as a giant ice pack for "down there" that will also do the job of a maxi pad. A great 2 in 1 and if you douse it in witch hazel soaked cotton rounds it's even better! Peri bottle : Use it every time you pee to avoid burning and keep things clean. Pro Tip: Fill it with warm water for added comfort. Cold or cool water will get the job done but it's the most pleasant. Sitz baths : Warm shallow baths help soothe discomfort and speed healing. Loose clothing : Say no to tight underwear and yes to breathable cotton. Be kind to your body—it just did something extraordinary. Check out the affiliate links to all my favorite products here. 3. C-Section Recovery: Moving Slowly, Supporting Your Incision If you had a cesarean, your recovery will be different—but just as valid. You’ll want to: Avoid lifting anything heavier than your baby Use a pillow to support your abdomen when coughing or sneezing Take prescribed pain meds as needed (don’t try to “tough it out”) Keep the incision clean and dry Healing from a C-section takes time—give yourself so much  grace. 4. Bleeding and Discharge: What’s Normal After you give birth, your body begins to shed the extra blood, mucus, and tissue that lined your uterus during pregnancy. This process is called lochia , and it’s totally normal— whether you had a vaginal birth or a C-section. There are three main stages  of lochia, and each has its own color, texture, and timeline: Lochia Rubra (Days 1–4) Color: Bright red, sometimes dark red Flow: Heavy, similar to a very heavy period What you might see: Small clots (smaller than a quarter), tissue, and a noticeable iron smell What to expect: You’ll need those extra-absorbent maternity pads during this phase. Bleeding may increase slightly with movement or breastfeeding (as the uterus contracts). Lochia Serosa (Days 5–10) Color: Pinkish-brown Flow: Lighter than before, more watery What you might see: Less blood, more discharge and mucus What to expect: Cramping may continue, especially if you’re breastfeeding, but bleeding should gradually decrease. Lochia Alba (Days 10–28+) Color: Yellowish-white or creamy Flow: Light, similar to spotting or a thin discharge What you might see: Mostly mucus, little to no blood What to expect: This final phase can last up to 4–6 weeks as your body finishes healing. When to Call Your Provider Call your doctor or midwife if: You’re soaking through a maxi pad in less than an hour You pass a clot larger than a golf ball The bleeding suddenly becomes heavier again after it had slowed down You develop a fever or notice a foul odor Always trust your instincts—if something feels off, it’s worth checking in. 5. Stay Hydrated and Nourished Your body is rebuilding tissue, producing milk (if you’re breastfeeding), and trying to regain balance. It needs fuel. Sip water constantly—keep a bottle nearby at all times Eat nourishing meals with protein, fiber, and healthy fats Snack often: trail mix, protein bars, or fruit with nut butter can go a long way This is not the time to “bounce back”—it’s the time to build back up. 6. Monitor Your Mental Health The hormonal shift after birth can be intense. It’s completely normal to cry, feel overwhelmed, or even grieve your old life. But if you: Feel persistently sad, hopeless, or anxious Struggle to bond with your baby Have scary or intrusive thoughts …please reach out to a provider, friend, or postpartum support group. You are not  alone, and help is available. 7. Lean on a Checklist That Has Your Back There’s so much to keep track of, which is why I created a free postpartum care checklist  just for you. It covers everything—from physical recovery items to emotional support reminders—so you don’t have to remember it all on your own. I’ve linked my tried and true checklist in both an editable PDF version and a standard PDF version so you can download for free below. Customize it as you see fit. You Deserve Care, Too After birth, so much of the focus shifts to the baby—but you  are recovering from one of life’s most intense physical and emotional events. Caring for your body is not selfish. It’s sacred. So take it slow, ask for help, drink the water, wear the mesh underwear—and know that your healing is worth prioritizing. You’ve got this, mama. And I’m right here with you.

Unfiltered or retouched photo of Olivia's belly at 36 weeks pregnant. Let me start by saying this loud and clear: stretch marks are a badge of honor . Truly. Our bodies go through something miraculous during pregnancy—expanding, stretching, softening, shifting—to create life. And the marks, lines, sagging, and changes that come with that? They're nothing short of sacred. I genuinely believe that. But I’m also someone who likes to feel good in my skin—and if I could  avoid new stretch marks, I wanted to give it my best shot. So I did. Religiously. Throughout my pregnancy, I used the 8 Sheep Organics Pregnancy Survival Kit  every single day. I didn’t miss a step. Not one. I actually ended up purchasing the kit twice , because I was using it so consistently and so generously. My favorite part? The Helichrysum Belly Balm and Belly Serum . I applied both—layered one over the other—every single night to my belly, butt, and upper thighs. I wasn’t shy with the amount or the coverage. These areas go through some serious stretching, and I wanted to be proactive, not reactive. Now, full transparency ? None of the products smell that great —except for the Peppermint Foot & Leg Rub , which smells like a super earthy mini spa treatment. But honestly, I didn’t care. I wasn’t in it for the fragrance—I was in it for the results . And they delivered ! To this day, I don’t have a single new stretch mark from pregnancy. Not one. That doesn’t mean I’m a better mom, or that my body "bounced back" (because, let’s be real—that whole phrase needs to go away). It just means I found something that worked for me , and I stuck with it. If you’re pregnant and wondering whether any of the creams, oils, or balms out there actually do  anything—this was the one that did something for me. It became part of my nightly ritual. I’d rub it in, talk to my baby, and thank my body for what it was doing. Whether you end up with stretch marks or not, your body deserves to be cared for, nourished, and loved. This was one small way I showed mine some love every day. Products I used (and loved): Pregnancy Survival Kit 8 Sheep Organics Pregnancy Survival Kit Helichrysum Belly Balm Belly Serum Peppermint Foot & Leg Rub If you’re in the middle of your pregnancy journey, I hope this encourages you to find what works for your skin and your soul. And if nothing else, to remember that you  are doing an incredible thing—stretch marks or not.

I’ve been practicing Elimination Communication (EC) with my daughter since she was just 4 weeks old. It started off slowly—watching her cues, learning her rhythms, offering the potty during natural “potty-tunities” like after naps or feedings. And for a while, it worked. She knew how to go in the potty. I thought we were building a strong foundation. But when she turned 1 and began walking, things shifted. Suddenly, the world was too exciting to pause for a potty break. Potty-tunities became harder and harder to catch. She’d outright refuse to sit on the potty, preferring instead to keep playing or exploring. And honestly? I didn’t blame her. She also knew that going in her diaper worked just fine—and when she wanted a change, she’d toddle over to me and make it known. For a while, I thought maybe EC had failed. Maybe I’d just introduced it too early. Or maybe it wasn’t going to “stick” the way I’d hoped. But then, today happened. She began to poop, and I rushed her to the potty. At first, nothing. So I cleaned her bottom preparing to get her dressed again. But just as I finished cleaning her up she paused, clearly felt the need to go again—and this time, she turned around and sat  on the potty by herself . She finished her business, stood up when she was done, and let me clean her like it was the most natural thing in the world. My jaw dropped. It was the clearest signal I’ve gotten yet that she knows . She’s aware of what her body is doing and knows the potty is the right place to go. That tiny moment—her choosing the potty, completely on her own—made me realize: we might be ready. She  might be ready. To make potty time more fun and less of a power struggle, I introduced a new rule: potty = book time. I keep a small basket of board books next to the potty, and she absolutely loves it. Honestly, who among us doesn’t appreciate a little reading while we handle our business? 😂 Once I started offering books, the potty suddenly became less scary, and she stopped running away from it. So now, after months of EC and weeks of toddler resistance, I think we’re at the starting line of something new. I’m planning to start formal potty training next week—probably moving toward removing diapers entirely. I know it’ll be messy. I know it won’t be linear. But I’m also learning to trust her. She knows more than I give her credit for. And today, she showed me she's ready to lead the way. Wish us luck!