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When I first heard about elimination communication —the idea of tuning into your baby’s cues and helping them use the potty instead of relying entirely on diapers—I thought it sounded both fascinating and mildly intimidating. But at just four weeks postpartum, I decided to give it a try. What I discovered surprised me: it was way  easier than I expected… but also a lot of work for me as the caregiver. What Is Elimination Communication? Elimination Communication (often shortened to EC ) is a gentle, baby-led approach to toileting that focuses on reading your baby’s natural signals and providing regular “potty-tunities.” Instead of waiting until toddlerhood to introduce potty training, EC encourages parents to start from infancy—sometimes as early as birth. The idea is simple: babies are born aware of their bodily functions. With consistency and communication, they can learn to associate the sensation of needing to go with using a potty. You can still use diapers (most families do), but you treat them more as a backup than the primary toilet. Common benefits of EC include: Earlier potty awareness Fewer diaper rashes Cost savings from fewer diapers used Less waste and a smaller environmental footprint Strengthened caregiver–child communication Our EC Journey: Starting at 4 Weeks I started EC with my daughter when she was just four weeks old. The hardest part wasn’t training her —it was training myself.  Learning to hold her over the tiny top-hat potty felt awkward at first. But within a week, I started catching most of her poops and pees. She caught on quickly and would go almost on demand (if she needed to). I never waited more than a minute or two, and I offered her a “potty-tunity” every 20–45 minutes. We still used diapers, but when she went successfully in the potty, I’d put the same clean diaper back on. That alone made a noticeable difference—it took us 7.5 weeks to go through a one-month diaper subscription box , which was a win for both our wallet and the planet. And here’s a big one: my daughter only ever had diaper rash once—and it was before we started EC.  After we began, she never had another. That alone made me a believer in the benefits of less time sitting in moisture. When EC Stopped Working So Smoothly Things went beautifully until she turned one. Once she started walking and exploring, her independence kicked in—and suddenly she didn’t want to stop playing to use the potty. I followed all the advice warning against forcing it, so I let it go. Honestly, I had a moment where I thought, What was the point of all that EC if she’s not even going to use it now? But when she showed interest again at 15 months, I realized all that early work had paid off. She already knew exactly what to do—it was just about timing and physical readiness. Potty Training, Round One (15 Months) At 15 months, potty training was conceptually simple but physically tricky. She wasn’t yet able to pull her pants up or down or clean herself, so I paused. I figured I’d wait until she showed signs of wanting more independence. Around 19 months, she started dressing herself, so we gave it another go. Potty Training, Round Two (19 Months) This time, she resisted. Hard. She wanted diapers, cried when I offered underwear, and clearly preferred the convenience of not having to stop playing. The first day, she refused to use the potty at all. But I didn’t give up. I kept her in underwear, stayed calm, and by day two she went in the potty again for the first time in months. By day three, she was going regularly—especially when she was bare-bottomed. She’d even tell me when she was done so we could dump and wash together. We watched Ms. Rachel’s potty episode  every day, and she loved it. I sang along to make it fun—and highly recommend doing the same if your toddler’s into Ms. Rachel too! What’s Working for Us Now At 19 months, she’s not fully potty independent yet, but she’s doing really well. I check in with her every 30 minutes or so—she rarely initiates on her own, but if I ask at the right time, she’ll come and go successfully. If she says “no,” I don’t push it. I let her experience the natural consequences of being wet and uncomfortable. That way, she learns through cause and effect, not through pressure. We’re working toward her telling me before  she has to go, but I know that might take time—and that’s okay. I expect she’ll be potty independent before two, but if not, no big deal. We’ll continue using diapers overnight until her diapers stay dry consistently for a couple of months. Top Learnings (And What I’d Do Differently) 💡 Buy at least 20 pairs of training underwear.  I started with eight and it wasn’t nearly enough—you’ll be doing laundry constantly either way. 💡 Consistency is key.  EC works when you  commit to it—it’s all about routine and attention. 💡 Don’t force it.  Forcing can backfire. Gentle guidance and patience work far better. 💡 Make it fun.  Songs, cheers, and positive reinforcement go a long way. 💡 Expect regressions.  Milestones like walking or independence spurts often interrupt potty progress—it’s normal! Is Elimination Communication Worth It? For me, the answer is both yes and no. The pros: It saved us money, prevented diaper rashes, reduced waste, and made potty training easier down the line. The cons: It required constant attention, time, and extra work—mostly from me as the primary caregiver. If you value connection, body awareness, and sustainability, EC can be a deeply rewarding experience. If you’re prioritizing simplicity and rest during the newborn stage, full-time diapers are absolutely fine too. Personally, I’d do EC again with my next baby—maybe because it’s become second nature now—but I don’t think it’s essential. For me, it was worth it for the bonding, awareness, and head start it gave us. It’s extra work, yes—but also extra connection. Have you tried elimination communication? I’d love to hear how it went for you—what worked, what didn’t, and what you’d do differently next time.

If you’ve ever stared at your phone’s GPS, standing two blocks from your destination, and somehow still  couldn’t figure out where to go… welcome to the club, mama. During pregnancy and postpartum, I felt like my brain packed up, left for maternity leave early, and forgot to tell me where it went. What started as a little forgetfulness in my second trimester turned into full-blown “mom brain” that made even basic problem-solving feel impossible. But here’s the good news: it does  come back. Slowly, surely, beautifully—and in my case, stronger than ever. The Science Behind “Baby Brain” If you’ve felt like pregnancy turned your sharp mind into mashed potatoes, you’re not imagining things. Studies show that up to 80% of pregnant women  report increased forgetfulness or mental fog. Neuroscientists have actually found structural changes in the brain during pregnancy —especially in areas tied to social and emotional processing. According to a 2016 study published in Nature Neuroscience , these changes help mothers bond with their babies and become more attuned to their needs. In other words, your brain isn’t shrinking —it’s rewiring . Your cognitive bandwidth gets reallocated toward protecting, nurturing, and connecting with your baby. It’s survival-level multitasking, not a flaw. When My Brain Left the Building For me, mom brain really hit around week 16 .During the first trimester, I was miserably sick—throwing up daily, exhausted, migraine-ridden—but my brain? Sharp as ever. Then suddenly, little memory lapses started creeping in.By week 18 , I was forgetting simple things. Once, in the middle of a conversation with friends, I literally forgot my middle name . My husband had to fill in the blank for me. By week 26 , it went from “oops, I forgot that thing” to “why can’t I think straight?” I’ll never forget (ironically) being two blocks from a restaurant for a friend’s birthday dinner. I had GPS in hand, street signs in front of me, and still—nothing was clicking. I ended up calling my mom (4,000 miles away) in tears. Finally, another mom saw me struggling and walked me to the door. That’s the day I realized: this wasn’t just forgetfulness. My brain was temporarily offline . How Work (and Life) Got Weird At the time, I was still working full-time. I hadn’t made any major mistakes, but I could feel  how fragile my mental clarity had become. So, I did what any responsible (and humble) pregnant woman would do: I told my boss I needed her to double-check my work. She was understanding—at first. But I could sense the tension. Eventually, I decided to start my maternity leave a week early just to rest. I used to joke, “From 35 weeks on, I couldn’t drive my way out of a paper bag.” It was funny because it was true. Postpartum: Slowly Coming Back Online Here’s the part I wish more people talked about: your brain doesn’t magically reset when the baby arrives. Immediately after delivery, I’d say I was operating at about 30%  capacity—up from 10% during late pregnancy. It sounds small, but that 20-point jump felt huge . Month by month, I felt my cognitive gears turning again. At 4 months postpartum , when I returned to work, I was maybe 70%  there. By 13 months postpartum , I finally felt like myself again— 100% .Now, at 19 months postpartum , I’d honestly say I’m at 110% . I feel sharper, wiser, and more emotionally grounded than before motherhood. Breastfeeding and the Brain Fog If you’re breastfeeding, you’re running a cognitive marathon on no sleep. Research shows that prolactin and oxytocin —the hormones that support milk production and bonding—also influence brain chemistry. They can enhance calm and attachment, but combined with sleep deprivation, they can blur your cognitive edges. One 2021 study found that mothers who exclusively breastfed longer sometimes reported greater fatigue and slower mental processing, but also higher emotional regulation and multitasking ability. So it’s a trade-off: your brain may feel foggy, but it’s working overtime in other areas to keep you (and baby) connected. Personally, I was exclusively breastfeeding  and handling all overnights. No surprise—sleep deprivation did not help. But interestingly, even while still nursing 1–2 times a day, I now feel sharper than I did before pregnancy. On nights I get 8 hours of sleep, my mind feels crystal clear. I’m curious to see how my brain feels once I fully wean, but so far, I feel like my neurons have gone through mom boot camp—and come out stronger. For Every Mom in the Fog If you’re reading this and wondering when you’ll feel “normal” again—hang in there.You ’re not broken. You’re becoming . Your brain is doing something extraordinary: rewiring itself to love, protect, and understand another human being. It takes time to balance the new circuits, but it does happen. And while I can’t personally recommend any supplements (since I haven’t tried them), my friend swears by a memory supplement  she got from her local pharmacy that she said worked wonders. If you’re near a health-food or vitamin store, it might be worth walking in and asking what they recommend. Sometimes even just talking to someone about it feels empowering. The Takeaway Pregnancy and postpartum change your brain—but not in the way you think.It ’s not a loss of intelligence; it’s a recalibration of priorities. With rest, nutrition, support, and time, your clarity will  return—and maybe, like me, you’ll find that motherhood didn’t make you lose your mind… it just made you rebuild it differently. So if you’re in the thick of the fog right now, please know: you’re not alone. Your brain is coming back. And she’s coming back wiser than ever. 💛 Sources Hoekzema, E. et al. (2016). Nature Neuroscience : “Pregnancy leads to long-lasting changes in human brain structure.” de Groot, R.H. et al. (2021). Psychoneuroendocrinology : “Pregnancy and postpartum brain plasticity and maternal cognition.” Henry, J.D. & Rendell, P.G. (2007). Journal of Clinical and Experimental Neuropsychology : “A review of the cognitive changes during pregnancy and postpartum.”

Yes! It's possible! Instead of spending hours upon hours researching and adding products to your baby registry you can just copy mine and have a HUGE head start! Everything on my public registry has been personally vetted and I either LOVE the product, or a close friend of mine does and I've heard about it so much it has earned a spot here. After you've transferred or copied the registry you can add or delete items as you see fit. I lean towards organic products, natural materials, and biggest bang for your buck. I love premium products, however I'm always down to save a few coins if I've found a product of similar quality with worthwhile cost savings.  ​ You can find my public Babylist Baby Registry here .  ​​ How to Copy My Babylist Registry: Access your Babylist registry: Go to your registry page on Babylist.  Transfer or Link: Look for an option to "Transfer Registry" or "+Add Item".  Choose Babylist: Select "Babylist" from the store dropdown menu.  Copy and Paste: If transferring, copy and paste the Babylist registry link you want to copy.  Transfer or Add Link: Click "Transfer Items" or "Add Link" to proceed.  ​ Unfortunately Amazon Baby Registries are not directly transferrable (able to be copied) but you can use any of the affiliate links I've provided anywhere on this site to add an item to your Amazon registry.   I will update this registry periodically with new products and the new preferences to keep it as current as possible. Congratulations mama!

As a mom, I’m always on the lookout for screen time that actually serves  my toddler—not just entertains her, but reflects her, teaches her, and makes her feel seen and celebrated. Representation matters so much , especially in the early years when our little ones are absorbing everything. If you’ve been searching for shows that center Black children, families, and educators in joyful, enriching ways—this list is for you! These shows feature African American leads in both live-action and animated formats, and they’re all perfect for babies, toddlers, and preschoolers. Plus, many are created by Black artists, educators, and parents. Here are 14 toddler-friendly shows that bring culture, learning, kindness, and fun straight to your screen. Live-Action Shows with Black Leads 1. Tab Time YouTube | Ages 2–5 Tabitha Brown is a loving, grounded guide who helps kids explore emotions, creativity, and the world around them with music, storytelling, and affirmations. Why it’s great : Gentle, loving guidance with themes like empathy, creativity, and mindfulness make this feel like emotional nourishment for little minds. 2. Meekah Netflix, YouTube, Amazon Prime | Ages 2–5 Part of the Blippi  universe, Meekah brings curiosity and adventure as she explores aquariums, museums, and play centers—all while modeling kindness and wonder. Why it’s great : Meekah is energetic and STEM-focused, encouraging curiosity through real-world exploration. 3. Bookmarks: Celebrating Black Voices Netflix | Ages 3+ Black celebrities and authors like Tiffany Haddish, Common, and Marley Dias read children’s books centered on Black joy, identity, and pride. Why it’s great : Each episode celebrates Black identity and joy through the power of storytelling by beloved Black voices. 4. Read with Me, Miss Dena YouTube | All ages A warm, expressive storytime series from a Black educator. Miss Dena reads a diverse range of picture books in a soothing, toddler-friendly format. Why it’s great : Miss Dena’s storytelling is cozy and engaging, perfect for quiet time or learning through books. 5. Mr. David’s Playhouse YouTube | Ages 2–5 Mr. David uses music, stories, and imagination to make early learning fun. He’s energetic, positive, and an amazing male role model for little learners. Why it’s great : The mix of music, imaginative play, and storytelling makes this show lively and enriching. 6. Ms. Houston YouTube | Ages 2–5 Ms. Houston brings the classroom to your screen with clear, engaging lessons on letters, numbers, and routines. She's joyful, structured, and toddler-tested. Why it’s great : Her real-teacher energy shines, making learning routines feel familiar and fun. 7. Titlekins YouTube | Ages 2–5 A reading-focused show that combines live-action and animation to teach phonics, sight words, and early literacy—all with Black-led storytelling and visuals. Why it’s great : Focuses on phonics, sight words, and beginner reading with rhythm and motion that toddlers love. Animated/Digital Shows with Black Leads 8. Gracie’s Corner YouTube | All ages A vibrant mix of educational music, movement, and affirmations featuring Gracie, a smart and spunky animated Black girl. Created by a real-life Black family! Why it’s great : Culturally rich remixes of classic learning songs encourage movement, confidence, and joy. 9. Ada Twist, Scientist Netflix | Ages 3–5 Ada is a curious young Black girl who loves solving problems with science! This STEM-forward series encourages critical thinking and teamwork. Why it’s great : Ada models curiosity and creativity through science-based problem-solving. 10. Doc McStuffins Disney+ | All ages Doc, a Black girl with a magic stethoscope, “fixes” her toy friends and models empathy, care, and confidence. It’s a classic for a reason. Why it’s great : Encourages empathy and self-confidence through imaginative healthcare play. 11. Blaze and the Monster Machines Paramount+, Nickelodeon | Ages 3–6 AJ, a tech-savvy Black boy, drives a talking monster truck and solves problems using math, physics, and engineering. Why it’s great : Problem-solving and STEM skills are front and center, wrapped in high-speed adventure. 12. Eureka! Disney+ | Ages 3–5 Eureka is a prehistoric inventor with big ideas and a bigger heart. The show features creativity, STEM, and a strong Black family dynamic. Why it’s great : Highlights invention and innovation through creative storytelling. 13. Karma’s World Netflix | Ages 4–6 Karma, a young Black girl with a gift for music, navigates growing up with style, honesty, and rhythm. Created by rapper Ludacris! Why it’s great : Celebrates music, family, and identity while promoting positive self-expression. 14. Cocomelon (select episodes) YouTube, Netflix | All ages While not a fully Black-led show, Cocomelon  includes recurring characters like Nina and her family, offering some moments of sweet representation for babies and toddlers. Why it’s great : These episodes feature culturally inclusive songs and characters that reflect more of today’s diverse world. Why Representation Matters Little ones need to see themselves reflected in what they watch—not just occasionally, but often. These shows normalize Black joy, creativity, curiosity, and leadership in a way that builds self-esteem and belonging from the very beginning. Whether you're looking for something musical, mindful, or STEM-based, there’s something here that can become a beloved part of your child’s screen time. What shows would you add to this list? Drop a comment below or send me a DM on Instagram—I love discovering new gems! And if you found this helpful, feel free to share with your fellow moms, aunties, teachers, and caregivers.

If you're expecting, congratulations! As your due date approaches, it’s completely normal to feel a mix of excitement and uncertainty. One way to ease anxiety and feel more in control of your birth experience is by creating a Birth Preferences Plan —also commonly called a birth plan . Now before we dive in: birth is unpredictable. A plan isn’t about scripting the perfect delivery—it’s about communicating your preferences , preparing for possibilities, and making informed choices with confidence. I've created a free, editable Birth Plan Template  to help make the process smoother for you. You can download it from one of the links at the end of this article and customize it to suit your unique needs and values. When completing your birth plan I encourage you to use this article as your guide. It will help you understand how to complete it, and what your options are. I walk you through each section of the template, explain what options might look like, and in some cases link to articles wher eyou can find more information about a topic—so you can make choices that feel right for you . Environment – During Labor This section helps you shape the atmosphere  in your birthing space. Lighting : Do you prefer dim lights, natural lighting, or bright lights? Some people find low lighting calming. Sounds/Music : You might want calming music, silence, nature sounds, or even a playlist that hypes you up. Aromatherapy : Scents like lavender, peppermint, or citrus can ease tension (if allowed by your hospital/birth center). Photography/Videos : Note whether you want photos or videos taken during labor or delivery—and by whom. Clothing : Some prefer hospital gowns, while others bring their own labor dress or comfy robe. Accessibility : Mention any accommodations (disability access, sensory sensitivities, etc.) important to you. Hands-On Support : Specify whether you'd like massages, counterpressure, or light touch from your partner or doula. Staff : You can list requests like limiting students, gender preferences for staff, or continuity of care. Pain Management & Monitoring – During Labor Pain Relief : You have several options—both natural and medicated. Common choices include breathing, movement, water, nitrous oxide, IV medications, and an epidural. Consider reading up on the different methods: Natural and Medicated Options Overview (Evidence-Based Birth) Epidurals, IV Meds, and Other Pain Relief (ACOG) Nitrous Oxide for Labor Pain (Mayo Clinic) Approved Interventions : Indicate what you’re comfortable with. Even though I didn't want any medical intervention during my labor and delivery, I ended up having 2 membrane sweeps, an epidural, and pitocin. I was in labor for 5 days so I'm thankful for it all now. There are more intervention options available than jusr what I experienced. Here are some helpful reads: Membrane Sweeping Pros and Cons (Evidence-Based Birth) Pitocin and Induction Explained (ACOG) Artificial Rupture of Membranes (Evidence-Based Birth) Cervical Checks : Some request limited checks or prefer only when medically necessary. Baby Gender : Share whether you'd like it announced at birth or prefer to wait. Fetal Monitoring : You may opt for intermittent monitoring (if low-risk) or continuous (often required in hospitals). Name : Optional, but fun to include! Pediatrician : Note if you have a chosen provider. Vitamin K / Erythromycin / Hepatitis B : Note whether you want these standard newborn procedures. Cord Cutting : Delayed cord clamping is supported by most major medical bodies. Learn more: ACOG: Delayed Umbilical Cord Clamping Benefits of Delayed Clamping (MDPI) Skin-to-Skin : Immediate skin-to-skin contact has powerful benefits. Here’s why it matters: Skin-to-Skin Benefits (PMC) UNICEF Baby Friendly Guide Kangaroo Care ( HealthyChildren.org ) Bathing : Many parents now delay the first bath to preserve the vernix caseosa. Learn why: What is Vernix and Why Keep It? (PMC) Vernix and Delayed Bathing (Pampers) Feeding : Will you be breastfeeding, formula feeding, or combo feeding? Would you like lactation support? Pushing & Delivery Posture/Position : Upright or active positions can support labor progress. These articles explain why: Birthing Positions Review (PMC) Benefits of Upright Birth (Evidence-Based Birth) Upright Birth Insight (Sara Wickham) Assistance : Would you prefer coached pushing, spontaneous pushing, or guidance only if needed? Special Requests : Add anything unique—affirmations, water birth, birth stool, etc. Episiotomy & Tears : You can request to avoid episiotomies unless medically necessary. Procedure Preference (C-Section) : Note preferences like gentle C-section or clear drape. After Delivery In Room : Share whether you want baby to room-in with you or spend time in the nursery. Skin-to-Skin : Reaffirm preference for immediate or extended skin-to-skin. Cord Cutting : Restate your preferences if needed. Bathing : Again, note any request for delayed bathing. Feeding : Whether you're breastfeeding, combo feeding, or using donor milk, include any preferences for support. Visitors : Clarify your comfort level and restrictions on visitation. Comfort and Mobility : Would you like help walking or wish to move around freely ASAP? Pain Medication & Perineal Relief : Include requests for witch hazel pads, spray, or specific meds. In Case of C-Section This section prepares for a surgical birth, just in case. Drape : Some hospitals offer a clear drape so you can see your baby born. Communication : Would you like your provider to talk you through the procedure? Photos : If permitted, who will take them? Support : Indicate who you want with you in the OR. Special Notes : Add anything that might help you feel emotionally supported. How to Complete Your Birth Plan Download the Editable Template : [Click here to get your copy.] Review Each Section : Sit down with your partner or support team and go through the categories. Use Simple Language : You don’t need medical jargon—write what feels natural to you. Be Honest About Your Priorities : It’s okay to not have a preference for every item. Print Multiple Copies : Keep one in your hospital bag, give one to your provider, and keep one on your phone. Stay Flexible : This isn’t a contract—it’s a guide to help your team support you. Final Thoughts You deserve to be heard and respected during your birth experience. This birth plan is not about control—it’s about collaboration  and communication . Use it as a starting point to discuss your goals, boundaries, and needs with your provider ahead of time. Whether your labor goes exactly how you envision it or takes a few unexpected turns, you’ll know that you took steps to prepare with intention. Download your Editable Birth Preferences Plan now and start shaping your birth experience today. You've got this mama!

If you’re pregnant and nearing the finish line, congratulations! You’ve probably got a nursery coming together, a car seat box waiting to be opened, and a to-do list a mile long. But one of the most practical (and oddly emotional) things you'll do to prep for baby’s arrival? Packing your hospital bag. I started building my hospital bag checklist around month two (what can I say—I’m a planner) and spent the next several months thoughtfully refining it. I researched birthing methods, meditations, and medicines, trying to prepare for every possibility. In the end, I didn’t use half the things I packed, and a few items I was sure would be game-changers turned out to be totally impractical. So in the checklist I’ve created for you here, I’ve narrowed it down to what you actually  need—plus a few thoughtful extras that, in my opinion, are genuinely worth the space. When it came time to actually pack, I knew I wanted everything to be easy to find—especially for my husband, who’d be the one digging through the bags while I focused on, well… labor. I ordered a set of clear storage pouches from Amazon and labeled each one by category (think: toiletries, nursing, baby clothes, snacks) so he wouldn’t be left guessing. Around 30 weeks, I organized and labeled everything, and by 34 weeks we had our hospital bags (we used small suitcases) packed and loaded in the trunk. His bag stayed in the closet until labor started, but it was packed and ready to go. This system gave both of us peace of mind—we weren’t scrambling, and he could grab whatever I needed in seconds without turning the whole bag upside down. So if you’re in the nesting phase or just want to check one more thing  off your list, I’ve got you covered. Below is the hospital bag checklist I wish I had the first time around—what I actually used, what I’m glad I brought, and the few nice-to-haves that are actually  worth it. The Hospital Bag Checklist Every Pregnant Woman Needs For Mom Essentials ID, insurance card, hospital forms Birth plan (if you have one) Phone + charger (extra-long cord or portable charger) Wallet with cash and/or card Clothing Comfy robe Nursing bras or nursing tanks Mesh underwear (hospital provides mesh ones, but extras are nice) Button-down nightgown or pajama dress (preferably 100% cotton or linen) 2–3 pairs of pajamas or labor & delivery gowns (especially helpful if your hospital stay ends up being longer) Shower shoes or 2 pairs of house shoes/slippers (one may get bloody during delivery — plan to toss; fresh pair for afterward) Cozy socks with grip Going home outfit (loose, comfy, and weather-appropriate) Toiletries Toothbrush + toothpaste Face wash or wipes Lip balm (a must!) Hair ties or headband Hairbrush or comb Deodorant Travel-size shampoo, conditioner, and body wash Nipple balm/butter Peri bottle (hospital provides one, but the upside down one is well worth the extra purchase) Adult diapers or heavy postpartum pads (hospital provides some) Witch hazel (pads or liquid — hospital may provide but nice to have your own) DermaPlast spray (hospital often provides but helpful to pack just in case) Glasses/contacts & solution (if needed) Health & Wellness Prenatal or postnatal vitamins Electrolyte drinks or packets Medications Comfort Items Your own pillow with a non-white pillowcase Blanket ( Linen or Cotton ) or shawl Essential oils, roller blends, or mini diffuser Massage tools or tennis ball for back labor Yoga mat (for stretching, squatting, or comfort during contractions) Bluetooth speaker (to play music or calming sounds) Music playlist + headphones SNACKS + DRINKS — lots! (think trail mix, granola bars, dried fruit, coconut water, electrolyte drinks , etc.) Water bottle with straw lid For Baby 2–3 newborn outfits (include one with built-in hand mitts or separate mittens) Going home outfit Hat and socks Blanket or swaddle Pacifiers (hospital often provides one — and it might be baby’s favorite — but it’s helpful to have backups) Newborn diapers (hospital provides plenty, but extras are okay) Wipes (gentle/sensitive, though hospital provides) Car seat (already installed!) For Partner or Support Person Change of clothes Toiletries + any daily medications Pillow + blanket Phone + charger w/ extra long charging cable SNACKS + DRINKS — bring a solid stash! Energy drinks + electrolyte drinks — helpful for long labor stretches Water bottle Nice to Haves Folder or large envelope for hospital papers & baby’s documents Breastfeeding pillow (like a Boppy or My Brest Friend ) Thank-you cards or small gifts for nurses Notepad + pen for questions, instructions, or journaling 1–2 dimmable night lights — crucial for overnight baby care without waking your partner; hospital lights are harsh and jarring; Pro Tip: Using the red light option while your partner sleeps works wonders to not disturb them Birth plaques for writing baby's name and birth stats (adorable for first photos!) Baby-safe ink pad for capturing newborn footprints Sharpie (to fill out birth plaques or add birth details to keepsakes) Silk or Satin Pillowcase Makeup Hair Styling Tools Downloadable Checklist:

As a DC mom, I was so relieved to discover how many local resources were available to support my breastfeeding journey. From lactation clinics to peer groups and free consultations, I never felt alone. I breastfed and pumped for the first several months, and even though my daughter quit pumped milk at 5 months old (babies have minds of their own!), I’m still so grateful I had access to support that made the experience more manageable. If you're based in DC and considering breastfeeding or pumping, the good news is—you have access to some of the best free support in the country. Here's a full breakdown of where to go, who to contact, and what you'll get. Free Breastfeeding Resources in Washington, DC 1. DC Health Breastfeeding Program Lactation-friendly workplace policies Rights education under DC Human Rights Act Toolkits for new moms More info: dchealth.dc.gov 2. DC WIC Provides the standard WIC benefits, including lactation counseling, breastfeeding supplies, and peer support. Learn more: dcwic.org 3. Mamatoto Village “Milk Bar” Weekly free in-person and virtual lactation support groups One-on-one consultations with lactation counselors Support for Black maternal health More info: mamatotovillage.org 4. Breastfeeding Center for Greater Washington Free and low-cost lactation classes Pump rentals and insurance processing help Donor milk services Explore: breastfeedingcenter.org 5. Children’s National Hospital Lactation Services Free prenatal and postpartum classes "Mom's Got Milk" support groups Back-to-work consults Details: childrensnational.org 6. NIH Nursing Mothers Program If you work at or near NIH: Prenatal education Pumping rooms Lactation consultations Info: ors.od.nih.gov 7. DC Breastfeeding Coalition & Lactation Commission Promotes public health policies and holds events like Black Breastfeeding Week. Updates: dchealth.dc.gov How to Access & Next Steps Resource How to Access DC WIC Apply at dcwic.org  or call your local clinic Mamatoto Village Register for support groups or consults at mamatotovillage.org Breastfeeding Center Call 202-293-5182 or walk in during open hours Children’s National Call 202-476-6941 or attend a community session NIH Program Apply via ors.od.nih.gov  if employed there DC Health Download toolkits or get guidance via dchealth.dc.gov Whether you’re starting your journey, troubleshooting a latch issue, or transitioning back to work, DC has your back . And I’ll say it again because it’s worth repeating: a fed baby is best . Your love isn’t measured in ounces. Choose what works best for you, and don’t hesitate to ask for help—you deserve it.

Breastfeeding has been one of the most intimate and transformative parts of my motherhood journey. From the moment my daughter was born, it felt surreal to offer my body to feed her—but minutes afterward, skin-to-skin, she instinctively crawled up my chest and latched on. I don’t even know if she got anything, but she latched—and yes, it hurt a bit but there was something powerful in that moment that will stick with me forever. The newborn phase tested me physically and mentally. I tackled every overnight shift to give my body the best chance at producing enough milk. In the first 2 weeks I got almost no sleep. I didn't count all of the hours but I do remember getting into a fight with my husband and screaming "I've had 4 hours of sleep in the past 4 days! Give it to me!" It definitely wasn't my finest moment. But the oxytocin rush during nursing felt like helped me keep going. Sleep-deprived though I was, those every hour and a half feeds forged a bond so deep—I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Also, be warned, whoever said newborns feed every 2-3 hours LIED . It's more like every hour and a half; and I don't mean you get an hour and a half break between feedings. There's an hour and a half between the beginning of one feeding and the start of the next. You may get 30 minutes of uninterrupted time between nursing sessions but it's definitely not sufficient for sleep. During the first few months of my breastfeeding journey, I leaned heavily on supplements like Legendairy’s Pump Princess and Milkmakers cookies. In month one, the effect was dramatic—an hour after taking them, instant engorgement and often a soaked through shirt and sheets if I didn't nurse her quick enough. By months two and three, my body had found its flow; the supplements still offered a boost but without the mess. Pumping, however, remained mechanical and impersonal. Even with a wearable pump, I felt like a cow attached to machinery, and at work—being the only mother pumping in a very male-dominated office—it felt wrong, awkward, and isolating. Despite all the work I did to keep a healthy milk supply, when I returned to work it seemed to be all for naught. My supply plummeted. I wasn't eating or drinking enough, and with Lily spending most of the day with the nanny those oxytocin producing nursing sessions were replaced with disconnected bottle feeds. My milk was drying up and I scrambled, desperate to bring it back. I ended up leaving my job, started nourishing myself properly, drank lots of water, and prioritized nursing again. My supply rebounded. It taught me brutally that feeding your baby starts with feeding yourself. There are moments of pure beauty amidst the chaos. My daughter is now 15 months old and I’ll never forget the time she was scared and she ran straight to nurse for comfort. As soon as she latched, she calmed. That feeling—beholding her in that moment, sensing that I grew her and nourished not just her body, but her mind and spirit, and that I was her most complete place of safety—brought me to happy tears. What I Wish I’d Known: Honest Tips for Other Moms Breastfeeding hurts at first —but you get used to it quickly, and honestly, it’s not as bad as people warn. Teething doesn’t ruin it.  Babies bite, sure, but they learn—most do fine. Miss a feed?  You can wake up drenched. Stock up on nursing pads. Don’t chase Instagram-style freezers  full of breastmilk bricks—it’s not necessary. My daughter now rejects re-heated expressed milk. Frozen milk flavor changes , because enzymes can alter the taste when thawed. It’s normal, but good to know. One thing I never expected was how breastfeeding affected my brain. The surge in progesterone and the steep hormonal shifts postpartum intensified my “pregnancy brain”—that fuzzy, forgetful fog. Science supports this: rising and falling progesterone and estrogen during the perinatal period are linked to cognitive blips (like slower recall or focus) . And while brain scans show physical re-wiring—like gray matter shifts that may enhance maternal instincts—our brains are indeed working overtime adapting to new roles. The Power of a Virtual Class One of the most practical things I did was enroll in Aeroflow's virtual breastfeeding class, covered by my insurance. It armed me with strategies for latch technique, pumping, and troubleshooting. The handouts were lifesavers—easy reminders when everything felt overwhelming. I’m sharing those same handouts here—downloadable and just as helpful as they were to me. Emotional Shifts: The Mental Ride of Breastfeeding I fully empathize now with “crying over spilled milk.” When you’re running on no sleep, and precious pumped milk spills, it feels catastrophic. Your body poured energy into making that milk, and dropping it is heartbreak. Hormones don’t help; the shifts in oxytocin, prolactin, estrogen, and progesterone during those months can leave you feeling fragile emotionally. Between hormone shifts—like continued progesterone exposure while nursing—and relentless fatigue, my mental state had more ups and downs than I could've imagined. Progesterone acts as a neurosteroid, impacting GABA receptors and promoting sedation and emotional vulnerability. That meant some days I felt extra tired, anxious, or moody. But knowing it was biology—not weakness—helped me be compassionate with myself. Slow Weaning, Gentle Goodbyes I breastfed on demand for the first year, then began easing into weaning around 12 months. Slow was key—I offered alternatives but never pushed if she wanted to nurse. Official weaning began around 14 months, and we're now down to two nursing sessions a day. Our plan? Gentle weaning through 18 months, but with zero pressure. She leads, I follow. Why I Still Recommend Breastfeeding It’s the ultimate comfort tool.  Hurt, tired, or emotional? Breastfeeding fixes it. Fed is best.  I believe fiercely that no mother should feel guilty—whether feeding breast or bottle. Breast is easier than bottle.  No prepping, no cleaning—just togetherness and nourishment. Strong Takeaways for Other Moms Feed yourself to feed them.  Eat, hydrate, rest—your body needs fuel to fuel them. Supplements are great—but temporary.  Use them early to stabilize supply, not later to chase peaks. Pumping is a tool, not your identity.  It’s okay to dislike it. It doesn’t define your journey. Hormones can hijack your emotions, and your brain—cut yourself some slack. Wean on your terms, on her terms.  Slow and steady with no guilt. Normalize public nursing.  You’re not just feeding—you're nurturing.

Breastfeeding is one of the most personal decisions a mother can make—and also one of the most rewarding, challenging, and nuanced. As a mom who chose to both breastfeed and pump, I’ve experienced both the beauty and the complexity firsthand. While I nursed on demand for the first few months, I also relied heavily on pumping to build up a stash for when I needed breaks or wanted to include my partner in feedings. That said, my daughter had other plans—and by five months old, she completely refused pumped milk! Whether you're planning to breastfeed, pump, combo-feed, or formula-feed—remember this: a fed baby is best . You are not defined by how you choose to feed your baby. There is no shame in choosing what works best for your family, your mental health, and your lifestyle. For moms choosing or considering breastfeeding or pumping, there are incredible free resources available nationwide  that can make the journey smoother, more informed, and more supported. Below is a list of trusted programs, support systems, and tools you can tap into—no matter where you live. Free Breastfeeding Resources Nationwide 1. WIC (Women, Infants & Children Program) WIC provides: Certified peer counselors Lactation consultants Breast pumps (manual and electric) Breastfeeding classes Special food packages for breastfeeding moms and babies Learn more: wicbreastfeeding.fns.usda.gov 2. La Leche League International (LLLI) Peer-to-peer support from experienced breastfeeding moms. They host local and virtual meetups, offer phone/email support, and provide evidence-based guidance. Find a group: llli.org 3. Baby Café USA Weekly free drop-in breastfeeding support groups led by lactation consultants and peer counselors. Find a location: babycafeusa.org 4. Office on Women’s Health (womenshealth.gov) Offers digital breastfeeding guides, workplace rights information, pumping tips, and troubleshooting advice. Explore: womenshealth.gov/breastfeeding 5. AWHONN Resources Free e-guides and resources for breastfeeding through the Association of Women’s Health, Obstetric and Neonatal Nurses. More info: awhonn.org 6. Healthy Start & MIECHV Programs These federally funded programs often include home visits from lactation consultants and provide equipment and support throughout pregnancy and postpartum. Search by state: mchb.hrsa.gov How to Access & Next Steps Resource How to Access WIC Apply through your local health department or WIC website La Leche League Use llli.org  to find your local chapter or virtual group Baby Café USA Visit babycafeusa.org  to locate a site near you Women’s Health Guides Download for free from womenshealth.gov AWHONN Search and download resources from awhonn.org Healthy Start/MIECHV Contact your local maternal health programs or search by ZIP code Breastfeeding and pumping are deeply personal—and sometimes unpredictable—experiences. Whatever choice you make, just know you're not alone and there is help out there.

I was recently accepted into the BabyArk affiliate program and I couldn't be more excited! Ever since I was pregnant, I’ve had my eye on the BabyArk Car Seat ...  like a hawk. I obsess over the best baby gear because I want the absolute best for my baby, and your baby deserves the best too! When I find a great product, like the really rave worthy ones, I want everyone to know. Insert... the BabyArk. You know how some people stalk their celebrity crush’s every move? That’s me with this car seat. I’ve read the reviews, watched every video, and followed every launch update so you don't have to! Now that we’re finally ready to move to a convertible car seat, I’m beyond excited to make BabyArk a part of our everyday life. So, let me tell you what makes the BabyArk stand out in a sea of safety seats. Why I’m Already Obsessed Safety first : The seat uses SafeCoil™ & BioArk™ energy‑absorption tech  built with military‑grade carbon fiber + steel , reducing crash forces and side‑impact energy. Smart features  (Smart model): 14 sensors, LED indicators, app alerts for installation, buckling, and “forgotten child” situations—total peace of mind. Premium convenience : Magnetic harness straps, zip‑on/off machine‑washable covers, no‑rethread harness, and an adjustable JoltFree™ headrest with 11 positions. Secure installation : Both models feature rigid LATCH , seat belts , top tether , load‑leg , and anti‑rebound bar —rare combination for maximum stability. Pricing & Availability Smart Convertible Car Seat  starts at $990  (available in select colors via the Babyark website and partners like Kidsland USA)  Classic Convertible Car Seat  is priced at $790 , also available directly or through retailers like Strolleria and Destination Baby & Kids  Financing options are available—starting at around $62/month for the Smart model or $50/month for the Classic—via Affirm or Paysquad  Delivery typically ships in 5–7 days, and many online retailers offer free delivery, trial, and warranty   Technical Specs at a Glance Feature Smart Model Classic/Premium Model Rear-facing weight 4–50 lb (1.8–22.7 kg) 4–55 lb (1.8–25 kg) Forward-facing weight 26.5–65 lb (12–29.5 kg) Same Height limit Up to 49 in / 124 cm Same Seat weight 27 lb (12.5 kg) 27 lb Base weight 18 lb (8.2 kg) 17.7–20 lb depending on retailer Dimensions (RF) 30 × 17 × 27 in (75 × 44 × 70 cm) Same Recline & Positions 9 recline positions, 11 headrest spots Similar but app‑guided in Smart variant Material & Fabric FR‑free, PFOA/PFOs/PFCs/PFAS‑free Same, machine-washable Expiration None (lifetime) None Now that all the details are in place, I’m officially ready to pull the trigger on the Babyark . I can't wait to unbox it, test the app features, evaluate ease of installation, assess day-to-day comfort, and capture it all in a full review for you guys. I’ve never been more excited about a car seat in my life—#momlife indeed. Stay tuned for the grand reveal! Click here for my affiliate link to shop BabyArk!

When I was pregnant, I wasn’t just growing one tiny human—I was also growing two fibroids. Yep, surprise! Alongside the little kicks and growing belly came two unwelcome guests that made themselves very much at home on the outside of my uterus. The larger of the two was about 3 cm—roughly the size of a golf ball—and for a while, we actually thought it was the baby’s foot or elbow. It would poke out at times, and we’d marvel at what we thought was our baby stretching. Turns out… not quite. Luckily for me, my fibroids didn’t cause any pain and posed no risk to my baby because of their position (outside the uterus). But that’s not the case for everyone. One of my friends also developed fibroids during her pregnancy, and she was in so  much pain she could barely walk. It was scary, unpredictable, and took weeks to ease up. So let’s talk about what fibroids actually are, what to expect if you have them during pregnancy, and why they’re especially common for women of color and those of us who are having babies a little later in life. What Are  Fibroids, Anyway? Uterine fibroids  (also known as leiomyomas  or myomas ) are noncancerous growths made up of muscle and fibrous tissue that grow in and around the uterus. They can vary dramatically in size—from as small as a seed to as large as a grapefruit—and you can have just one or many at a time. Types of fibroids include: Intramural:  grow within the uterine wall Subserosal:  grow on the outside of the uterus (like mine!) Submucosal:  grow into the uterine cavity Pedunculated:  grow on a stalk, like a mushroom More detail on types and symptoms from Cleveland Clinic. Why Do Fibroids Grow During Pregnancy? In short: hormones . Pregnancy causes a surge in estrogen  and progesterone , both of which stimulate the uterine lining—and unfortunately, fibroids love those hormones too. According to the NIH , these hormones can cause fibroids to grow rapidly, especially in the first and second trimesters. That’s exactly what happened to me. What started as small, barely noticeable bumps turned into firm, round protrusions you could see and feel on my belly. How Common Are Fibroids? Fibroids are extremely common  in women of reproductive age. According to the Office on Women’s Health (U.S. Department of Health & Human Services): 70–80%  of women will develop fibroids by age 50. Black women are 2 to 3 times more likely  to develop fibroids than white women, often earlier and with more severe symptoms. Advanced maternal age  (typically age 35 and older) is another risk factor, per ACOG. So if you’re a Black woman in your 30s or 40s and pregnant or trying to conceive, it’s worth being proactive with your doctor. Risks and Symptoms of Fibroids During Pregnancy While many women with fibroids have normal pregnancies (hi, that was me!), fibroids can  come with some risks and complications. During Pregnancy: According to ACOG, potential complications include: Pain  (especially if the fibroid grows rapidly or degenerates) Increased risk of miscarriage Placental abruption Preterm labor Breech presentation Fetal growth restriction  (rare) Outside of Pregnancy: Heavy or prolonged periods Pelvic pain or pressure Constipation Frequent urination Back or leg pain Difficulty conceiving (in some cases) What Happens After Birth? Some fibroids shrink naturally postpartum as hormone levels fall, while others stick around. The Cleveland Clinic notes that fibroid size and symptoms may lessen after pregnancy, but they rarely disappear entirely without treatment. In my case they shrank; but my OB-GYN will continue to monitor them during annual visits, and as long as they remain asymptomatic, no intervention is needed. Can Fibroids Be Removed? Yes—though not during pregnancy , unless there’s a life-threatening complication. Here are common removal options, as explained by the Mayo Clinic : Myomectomy  – Surgery to remove fibroids while preserving the uterus (common for women who want to conceive in the future). Hysterectomy  – Complete removal of the uterus (a permanent solution). Uterine artery embolization  – Blocks blood flow to fibroids to shrink them. MRI-guided focused ultrasound  – Non-invasive destruction of fibroid tissue. Living with Fibroids If you’ve been diagnosed with fibroids, or suspect you might have them, the first thing to know is this: you are not alone.  And you are not broken. Millions of women—especially Black women—live full, beautiful lives while managing fibroids. Tips for navigating fibroids: Keep track of your symptoms Advocate for yourself in medical settings Ask your OB-GYN for extra monitoring during pregnancy Lean on community—friends, forums, or support groups Final Thoughts Growing a baby is hard enough without fibroids tagging along for the ride. But here’s the thing: your body is wise. Whether you’re managing fibroids, pregnancy, or both, you’re doing something amazing—and you deserve support, knowledge, and care. I was lucky that mine were harmless. But even if you’re not so lucky, you can  still have a healthy pregnancy and a beautiful birth. The key is awareness, preparation, and not being afraid to speak up if something doesn’t feel right. Got questions about fibroids or your own experience? Talk to your OBGYN and bring a list of all the questions you can possibly think of to give yourself the best chance at leaving your visit with a peace. You're also welcome to leave a comment here. I'm super passionate about creating a safe space with this blog so let’s normalize talking about this and remove any shame or stigma around tough conversations. We all go through a lot bringing life into this world, and we deserve support along the way.

Let me tell you something wild. During my pregnancy, I lived  for lemonade. Not just any lemonade—ice cold, lip-puckering, borderline-too-tart but still scrumptiously sweet, lemonade. Raspberry-lemonade, strawberry lemonade, blueberry lemonade, it didn't matter. The more the better. As long as the lemon was in there and it was FRESH squeezed, I'd take one... or sometimes three. I craved it so much, I started joking that my baby would come out smelling like citrus and demanding Chick-fil-A’s lemonade straight from the bottle. Fast forward to now: I’m not pregnant anymore, but my friend just entered her third trimester, and guess what she told me the other day? “I can’t stop drinking lemonade. What is happening?!” Girl. Welcome to the club! So… Why Lemonade? Pregnancy cravings are real—and weird. Some of us want pickles and ice cream. Some want crunchy ice, clay, or even soap (yes, that’s a thing— hi pica ). And some of us? We want lemonade like it’s the nectar of life. Here’s what might  be going on: 1. Your body’s asking for hydration + electrolytes. Lemonade is water-based and contains some natural electrolytes from the lemon juice (especially if it’s fresh). During pregnancy, blood volume increases significantly, which means staying hydrated is crucial. Your body might be saying, “Hey! I need more fluids and a zesty kick to go with it.” 2. Nausea relief. Lemons are known to ease morning sickness. That sour, citrusy punch can settle an uneasy stomach—especially during the first trimester. So if lemonade was the only thing that didn’t make you gag, you’re not alone. 3. Vitamin C boost. Pregnant bodies need more vitamin C to help absorb iron and support fetal development. While lemonade isn’t a miracle supplement, that lemon juice might be your body’s subtle way of getting what it needs. 4. Your taste buds are on a wild ride. Pregnancy can completely  change your sense of taste and smell. Things you used to love might smell like trash, and things you never noticed suddenly become obsessions. Sour and tart flavors—like those in lemonade—often become strangely satisfying during this hormonal rollercoaster. The “Lemonade Effect”: A Sisterhood of Citrus The best part? I thought my lemonade obsession was a one-time fluke. But now, watching my friend go through the same thing, I realize: maybe lemonade is our pregnancy love language. There’s something deeply comforting (and slightly hilarious) about seeing the same cravings show up in our circle of moms. It’s like a citrus-scented rite of passage. So Mama, Listen to Your Body. Whether you’re craving lemonade, watermelon, olives, or peanut butter straight from the jar—trust your body. Pregnancy cravings aren’t random nonsense. Your body is whispering  to you (or screaming, let’s be real) about what it wants. Sometimes it’s nutrients. Sometimes it’s comfort. Sometimes it’s just something that tastes really freaking good  in that moment. As long as your cravings are safe, go for it.  You're doing an incredible, magical, exhausting, mind-blowing thing—growing life. That deserves a cold glass of lemonade. Or seven.